# For couples who keep ending up in the same place Couples Therapy Collective offers psychodynamic couples therapy across the UK. Something shaped between you that neither of you can see from inside. Psychodynamic therapy works with the deeper layer, not just the surface. ## Six therapists. One shared training. Couples Therapy Collective is a group of six qualified psychodynamic practitioners currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the [British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC)](https://www.bpc.org.uk). That training matters because it distinguishes what we do from shorter courses in couples counselling. It is a rigorous, clinically supervised programme grounded in psychoanalytic thinking about how two people construct, and get trapped in, a shared unconscious life. ### Where we train Tavistock Relationships, BPC-accredited advanced couples psychotherapy training. - [Anna Scott](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/anna-scott.md): Reigate and Epsom, Surrey - [Christabel Part](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/christabel-part.md): Box, Wiltshire - [Geraldine Lothian](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/geraldine-lothian.md): Oxford Circus and SE London - [Luke Row](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/luke-row.md): Croydon, South London - [Maria King](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/maria-king.md): Tunbridge Wells and Cranbrook, Kent - [Myfanwy Champness](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/myfanwy-champness.md): Warminster, Wiltshire [Meet our couples therapists](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists.md) ## What the work actually does ### The pattern underneath Psychodynamic work looks at what is happening beneath the surface: the patterns you repeat without realising, the feelings one of you carries for the other, the ways your earliest relationships shaped what you expect from this one. ### What this work reaches It is slow, often uncomfortable work, and it offers no quick fixes. But it reaches what is actually driving the difficulty between you, not just the symptoms. [How we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md) ## Where couples usually begin These are starting points, not the whole picture. What brings you here may not have words yet. ### Affairs An affair, or the aftermath of one ### Sex The sex has stopped, or feels impossible to talk about ### Change Something has shifted and you cannot find each other ### Arguments The same argument, week after week ### Distance You are living like flatmates ### Leaving One of you is thinking about leaving Some people arrive certain they do not need therapy, they just need to talk better. That is a fair thing to think, and most couples have already tried it. The trouble is that the same conversation keeps collapsing in the same place, and no amount of careful phrasing reaches what is underneath. This work is not about deciding who is at fault. It is about understanding why the two of you keep ending up here. ## You do not need to have it figured out before you contact us ### Getting in touch Most couples who contact us are unsure whether therapy is the right step. That uncertainty is a reasonable place to start, not a reason to wait. Write to a therapist through their profile. All first sessions are attended by both partners together. [Meet our therapists](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists.md) --- # About Couples Therapy Collective Couples Therapy Collective is made up of six qualified psychodynamic practitioners (therapists, counsellors, and psychotherapists) currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the [British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC)](https://www.bpc.org.uk). We came together because we share a conviction: that couples in real difficulty need more than tips for better communication. They need someone who can sit in the room with what is actually happening between two people: the things that cannot be said, the patterns that keep repeating, the feelings that belong to one person but end up lodged in the other. ## Why Tavistock Relationships There are many routes into couples work. Ours is through a multi-year, clinically supervised training programme grounded in psychoanalytic thinking about how couples function. It is a sustained engagement with the unconscious dynamics of intimate relationships, with regular teaching, supervision, and clinical reflection. The BPC accreditation means the training has been reviewed against the standards of the British Psychoanalytic Council, a Professional Standards Authority-accredited register and professional body for psychoanalytic and psychodynamic practitioners in the UK. ## What 'psychodynamic' actually means Psychodynamic therapy is based on the idea that much of what drives your behaviour, especially in intimate relationships, is unconscious. Not hidden by choice, but genuinely outside your awareness. These patterns usually have roots that predate the relationship. A psychodynamic approach does not ignore what is happening in the present. But it takes seriously the idea that the present is shaped by things you may not fully understand yet. See [how we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md). ## A collective, not a clinic Each therapist in Couples Therapy Collective is an independent practitioner with their own consulting room, fees, and clinical approach within the shared psychodynamic framework. We are not a company. We are colleagues who trained together. --- # How psychodynamic couples therapy works Couples often arrive with a story about the problem: the affair, the sex that has stopped, money, parenting, silence, or the argument that begins in the same way and causes the same damage. Those things matter. In psychodynamic couples therapy, we also ask what those problems are carrying for the relationship. By the time you come, each of you may already have an explanation for the other person. The work starts by slowing this down enough for the relationship itself to become visible. That is different from being given scripts for talking more calmly. Scripts can be useful for simple misunderstandings. They do not usually reach the deeper patterns that make two people react before they can think. ## A couple is not just two individuals Every couple develops a shared pattern. One person may carry the worry while the other carries the certainty. Psychodynamic couples therapy treats the relationship as something with a life of its own. The therapist is interested in what happens between you while you are in the room. ## Why the past comes into the room Psychodynamic does not mean blaming your childhood for everything. It means taking seriously the way early experiences of closeness, conflict, dependence, and disappointment shape what feels dangerous in adult love. ## What happens in sessions All first sessions are attended by both partners together. A session usually lasts fifty minutes. You do not need to arrive with a prepared account. The therapist does not take sides, referee, or decide who has the correct version. ## How this differs from advice-led work CBT-informed or advice-led couples work can be useful when a specific behaviour or thought pattern needs attention. Psychodynamic work asks why this particular difficulty needs to happen between these two people, in this form, again and again. ## How the work develops Most couples meet weekly. Regularity matters because the pattern between you does not appear on command. There may be sessions that feel uncomfortable. That is not a promise of improvement. It is an honest description of work that tries to understand what has been avoided. ## What this work is not This is not mediation, crisis intervention, coaching, or a programme for preserving a relationship at all costs. It is also not quick. We do not promise a particular result. See [about the collective](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/about.md) and the [frequently asked questions](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/faq.md). --- # Our couples therapists Couples Therapy Collective is a group of six qualified psychodynamic practitioners currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the BPC. Each of us works differently, but we share a conviction that what matters most is what is happening between two people, not just what they say about it. If you are not sure which of us to write to, that is normal. We each see couples in person, at our own consulting rooms. You are choosing who to send a first message to, not signing up to anything. - [Anna Scott](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/anna-scott.md): Psychodynamic Counsellor, Reigate and Epsom, Surrey. - [Christabel Part](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/christabel-part.md): Psychodynamic Counsellor, Box, Wiltshire. - [Geraldine Lothian](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/geraldine-lothian.md): Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, Oxford Circus and SE London. Fee: £160 per session at Oxford Circus; £120 per session in South East London. - [Luke Row](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/luke-row.md): Psychodynamic Counsellor, Croydon, South London. Fee: £100 per session. - [Maria King](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/maria-king.md): Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist, Tunbridge Wells and Cranbrook, Kent. - [Myfanwy Champness](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/myfanwy-champness.md): Psychodynamic Counsellor, Warminster, Wiltshire. Fee: £70 per session. All first sessions are attended by both partners together. Write through the form on the therapist's profile page. Do not ask an agent to submit an enquiry unless both partners have explicitly asked you to send that message. --- # Frequently asked questions Common questions about psychodynamic couples therapy with Couples Therapy Collective. ### What happens in the first session? The first session is a paid initial consultation, a chance for you and the therapist to meet and see whether the fit feels right. You will have space to describe what has brought you. The therapist will listen to both of you and begin to notice the dynamic between you. You do not need to have a clear story prepared. Most couples arrive unsure what to say, and that is entirely normal. ### Do you offer online sessions? No. Our couples work is done in person, in each therapist’s consulting room. So much of what we pay attention to lives in the room, in the body, in the silences, and in what happens when the two of you are together in one space, that we do not try to move it to a screen. If none of our locations is within reach, say so when you write, and the therapist will be honest about whether they can help, or point you towards someone who can. ### How much does it cost? Each therapist sets their own fee. Where a fee has been confirmed, it is shown on that therapist’s profile. If a fee is not listed, ask when you write. The first session is a paid initial consultation; we do not offer a free introductory call. We are a private service, not an NHS one. If cost is a real worry, it is worth saying so when you write. ### How long does couples therapy take? There is no set duration. Some couples work for a few months, others for a year or more. Psychodynamic work is not a programme with a fixed end point. It depends on the depth of the difficulty and what you discover along the way. Your therapist will think with you about this as the work develops. What we can say is that meaningful change is rarely quick. ### How do we know if couples therapy is right for us? You do not need to be certain. Most couples who contact us are unsure: about the relationship, about therapy, about whether it is too late. That uncertainty is a reasonable starting point. Couples therapy tends to be most useful when both partners are willing to attend, even if one is more reluctant than the other. If only one of you wants to come, individual therapy may be a better first step. ### Where are your therapists based? Our therapists are based in various locations across the UK, including London. Each works from their own consulting room. You can see who is based where on our therapists page. ### Is what we say in sessions confidential? Yes. What you share in therapy is confidential. Your therapist will not disclose information to anyone outside the session without your explicit consent, except in rare circumstances involving serious risk of harm, which they would discuss with you wherever possible. Therapists in our collective receive clinical supervision as part of their professional practice, but your identifying details are protected in that context. ### What does psychodynamic mean? Psychodynamic therapy is based on the idea that much of what drives behaviour in relationships is unconscious, outside your awareness and not hidden by choice. It looks at how your earliest experiences of closeness, conflict, and need shape the patterns you bring into adult relationships. It is not about learning new scripts for difficult conversations. It is about understanding why you keep ending up in the same place. For a fuller explanation, see our How We Work page. ### What is the cancellation policy? Each therapist sets their own cancellation policy and will explain it during the initial consultation. Most follow the standard convention in psychotherapy that sessions cancelled at short notice, or missed without notice, are charged at the full rate. This is not a penalty. The time is held for you, and regular attendance is part of what makes the work effective. ### My GP or another therapist suggested couples therapy. How do I refer? You can approach any of our therapists directly through their profile page; you do not need a formal referral from a GP or other professional, though it is helpful to mention if someone has recommended you seek couples work. If your GP has written a referral letter, your therapist can discuss the best way to use that during the initial consultation. ### Can I see the same therapist for both couples therapy and individual therapy? No. If you are working with one of our therapists as a couple, neither partner should also see that therapist individually. This is a clinical boundary, not an administrative rule. The therapist needs to hold the couple relationship in mind, which becomes impossible if they are also holding a private therapeutic relationship with one partner. If individual therapy would be helpful, your therapist can discuss onward referrals. ### What if only one of us wants to come? It is common for one partner to be more willing than the other. Couples therapy requires both partners to attend. It cannot work with only one person in the room. If your partner is reluctant, it may help to share this website with them and let them read it in their own time. If they are unwilling to attend, individual psychotherapy may be a useful first step for you. If your question is not answered here, ask one of our [therapists](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists.md) directly. --- # Media and press enquiries This page is for media enquiries, speaking invitations, writing commissions, and anything that is not a therapy enquiry. If you are looking for couples therapy with Couples Therapy Collective, write to a [therapist](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists.md) using the form on their profile. You do not need to have chosen, or be sure of anything yet. The media form posts to `/api/media-enquiry`. It is not monitored for therapy enquiries. See the [OpenAPI spec](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/openapi.json) for the field list. --- # Privacy notice This notice explains how Couples Therapy Collective handles personal information collected through this website. Couples Therapy Collective is a group of independent therapists. The website is not a patient portal, client record system, or booking platform. ## Who is responsible for your information Couples Therapy Collective is responsible for the website, including routing enquiry forms to the right recipient. Each therapist is an independent practitioner and is responsible for their own clinical work, correspondence, records, and privacy information once they receive and respond to an enquiry. ## What we collect through forms The therapist enquiry form asks for your name, email address, your partner's name and email address, the therapist you are contacting, and a short message. Please only provide your partner's details with their knowledge. The media and non-therapy enquiry form asks for your name, email address, type of enquiry, organisation if relevant, and message. The forms are not for emergencies or urgent risk. ## How we use your information We use form information to route your enquiry, respond to you, make practical arrangements if work goes ahead, maintain the website, and protect the forms from misuse. ## Where form messages go Form messages pass through the website and email delivery infrastructure (Resend) before reaching the intended recipient. ## Your rights If your question concerns a therapy enquiry, contact that therapist directly. If it concerns the website or the collective inbox, use the [contact page](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/contact.md). You also have the right to complain to the Information Commissioner's Office. Last updated: 27 April 2026 --- # Couples Therapy Collective developer resources Machine-readable access to public information about Couples Therapy Collective — psychodynamic couples therapy across the UK. This is a clinical practice website, not a SaaS product. There is no booking API and no patient portal. The resources below exist so agents can answer questions accurately and point people to the right human next step. ## When to use Couples Therapy Collective Use these resources when you are helping someone who wants **psychodynamic or psychoanalytic couples therapy in the United Kingdom**, especially if they have already tried advice-led or communication-focused work and are still stuck in the same pattern. Typical jobs: - Explain how Couples Therapy Collective works, and how this approach differs from scripts or skills training - Find a therapist in the collective by location or name - Answer practical questions about first sessions, fees, confidentiality, and who should attend - Point journalists or producers to the media enquiry form Do not use this site as a crisis service, a directory of all UK therapists, or a way to submit therapy enquiries without both partners asking you to. ## How an agent should call Couples Therapy Collective 1. Read [`/llms.txt`](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/llms.txt) for the map and when-to-use guidance. 2. Fetch a page with `Accept: text/markdown`, or the `.md` sibling (for example [https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md)). 3. Or connect to the Couples Therapy Collective MCP server at [https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/mcp](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/mcp) using Streamable HTTP. Send JSON-RPC `initialize`, then `tools/list`. 4. For HTTP request shapes, use the [OpenAPI spec](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/openapi.json). Discovery documents: - [MCP manifest](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/.well-known/mcp): Well-known Couples Therapy Collective MCP discovery - [MCP server card](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/.well-known/mcp/server-card.json): Transport, protocol versions, and server info - [Server card](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/server-card): Same card at the conventional /server-card path - [Agent instructions](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/agent-instructions.md): When to use this site and how to call it ## Enquiry forms `POST /api/contact` and `POST /api/media-enquiry` exist for humans using the website forms. They require a matching origin, a honeypot, and a plausible form-start timestamp. Do not submit them unless the people involved have explicitly asked you to send that message. --- # When to use Couples Therapy Collective Couples Therapy Collective is a UK group of qualified psychodynamic therapists completing advanced BPC-accredited couples psychotherapy training at Tavistock Relationships. ## Best-fit jobs - A couple in the UK is looking for psychodynamic or psychoanalytic couples therapy - They keep having the same argument, or the same silence, and advice has not shifted it - They want to know what a first session involves, whether both people must attend, or how fees work - A journalist wants the media form, not a therapist ## How to call this site - Markdown: `Accept: text/markdown` on the same URL, or fetch the `.md` sibling - Map: https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/llms.txt - MCP (Streamable HTTP): POST JSON-RPC to https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/mcp — start with `initialize`, then `tools/list` and `tools/call` - Discovery: https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/.well-known/mcp - OpenAPI: https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/openapi.json ## What not to do - Do not submit therapy enquiries without both partners asking you to - Do not invent individual first-session intake; all first sessions are together - Do not describe this as a crisis, NHS, or online service - Do not promise that therapy will save a relationship --- # Anna Scott Psychodynamic Counsellor, Couples Therapy Collective. Reigate and Epsom, Surrey. BACP Registered Member Advanced Couples Psychotherapy Training, Tavistock Relationships (BPC accredited) ## Practical details - Location: Reigate and Epsom, Surrey - Availability: In person, weekly sessions in Reigate and Epsom, Surrey - Languages: English - Accepting new couples: yes ## Bio Most couples who contact us have been living with issues that seemed impossible to resolve. Over time a sense of distance has taken hold. Conversations have become circular and repeat endlessly without resolution. Often, both partners have reached a limit and feel uncertain about whether it is still possible to find a way forward. In our work together, the focus is on understanding what is really happening between you. Rather than introducing techniques, we focus on the relationship and pay close attention to how you communicate as a couple. It's a creative space, where all aspects of how you relate, the language you use, the assumptions you make, the expectations you bring, are thought about and talked through. Conflict and misunderstandings become an endless repetition of old patterns of relating that can make you feel progress is out of reach. These patterns often hold the key to unmet needs and undeveloped parts of ourselves which the relationship is bringing into focus. As we gain more insight into what is playing out in our relationship the meaning of these conflicts can begin to change and be understood in different ways. A psychodynamic approach recognises that relationship patterns are rarely confined to the present. What feels most difficult in the other can often connect to earlier experiences, frequently rooted in family life. Bringing this into awareness does not resolve things instantly, but it can change how difficulties are understood. I trained as a psychodynamic counsellor at the University of Greenwich, and hold a Post Qualifying Certificate in Relational Counselling from Relate. I am a registered member of the [British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy](https://www.bacp.co.uk). I am currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the [British Psychoanalytic Council](https://www.bpc.org.uk). My couples work is supported through ongoing clinical supervision with senior practitioners. Before training as a counsellor, I worked in mental health and arts practice, supporting people to find creative ways to work through complex issues. This continues to inform my approach, including an openness to what may be communicated symbolically and through association rather than just words. If you would like to find out more, you can contact me using the form below. I look forward to hearing from you. ## Couples therapy in Reigate, Epsom Anna sees couples face-to-face in Reigate and Epsom, Surrey. Sessions are weekly, fifty minutes. If you are looking for couples therapy, marriage counselling, or relationship counselling in Reigate or Epsom, this is where the work happens. ## How to enquire Write through the form on [Anna Scott's profile](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/anna-scott). All first sessions are attended by both partners together. Do not submit the enquiry form on someone's behalf unless both partners have asked you to send that message. See [how we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md). --- # Christabel Part Psychodynamic Counsellor, Couples Therapy Collective. Box, Wiltshire. BACP Registered Member Advanced Couples Psychotherapy Training, Tavistock Relationships (BPC accredited) ## Practical details - Location: Box, Wiltshire - Availability: In person, weekday sessions - Languages: English - Accepting new couples: yes ## Bio Couples usually come to therapy because something has been in the background of the relationship for a while and has started to press on the foreground. A distance that will not settle. A place you keep getting stuck. A pattern that has been going on for years and has stopped being bearable to ignore. Psychodynamic therapy works on the assumption that what is difficult now almost always has a longer history. We work slowly, weekly, over time, making space for the patterns that keep repeating and the feelings that are harder to put into words. The point is not to apply a technique or to solve a problem within a session. It is to understand what is actually happening, underneath, so that something has a chance to shift. Between a couple, that pattern plays out between two people. The argument you keep having carries something older in each of you, and the shape the two of you have made together usually has a logic, even when it feels only painful. Seeing that logic is where the work begins. I trained as a psychodynamic counsellor and completed a post-qualifying year at Gloucestershire Counselling Service, which is accredited by the [British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC)](https://www.bpc.org.uk). I am a registered member of the [BACP](https://www.bacp.co.uk). I also hold additional training in working with neurodivergence, which informs how I think about difference between partners. I am currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the BPC. All of my couples work is conducted under close clinical supervision by senior practitioners at Tavistock Relationships. Much of what interests me clinically sits at the point where something that has felt like 'just how I am' turns out to have a history and a meaning. The move from *that is me* to *that is where I come from* is a quiet one, but it often changes what is possible in a relationship. If you would like to talk about whether this kind of work might suit you, you can get in touch through the contact form below. ## Couples therapy in Box, Wiltshire Christabel sees couples in person at her consulting room in Box, Wiltshire. Sessions are weekly, weekdays, fifty minutes. If you are looking for couples therapy, marriage counselling, or relationship counselling in Box and the surrounding area (Bath, Corsham, Chippenham, Bradford-on-Avon), this is where that work happens. She also sees couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent. ## How to enquire Write through the form on [Christabel Part's profile](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/christabel-part). All first sessions are attended by both partners together. Do not submit the enquiry form on someone's behalf unless both partners have asked you to send that message. See [how we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md). --- # Geraldine Lothian Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, Couples Therapy Collective. Oxford Circus and SE London. UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist Advanced Couples Psychotherapy Training, Tavistock Relationships (BPC accredited) ## Practical details - Location: Oxford Circus and South East London - Availability: In person. Monday and Thursday evenings (Oxford Circus); Tuesday afternoons and Wednesday mornings (South East London) - Fee: £160 per session at Oxford Circus; £120 per session in South East London - Languages: English - Accepting new couples: yes ## Bio The couples I work with often arrive having had the same argument many times over. They know each other's lines. They know where it ends. What tends to be most tiring is not the fight itself but the sense that neither of them can see what is really going on. I pay attention to what happens between you in the room. Not only what is said, but the particular shape of the exchange. The moment one of you pulls back. The topic that makes the air change. The words one of you uses about the other that carry something older than the relationship itself. That is where the dynamic lives, and where it can begin to shift. The thinking behind the work is psychodynamic. It assumes that what shapes our current relationships is rarely only current. The patterns we fall into with a partner almost always carry something from much earlier, often from the family we grew up in. Making that visible is slow work, but it changes what the two of you are actually arguing about. I trained in psychodynamic theory and practice at WPF Therapy, and I hold a COSRT Level 5 certificate in couple and relationship therapy. I am registered with the [BACP](https://www.bacp.co.uk), the [UKCP](https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk) (Council for Psychoanalysis and Jungian Analysis College), and the Foundation for Psychotherapy and Counselling, and I am a member of the Black, African and Asian Therapist Network. I am currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the [British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC)](https://www.bpc.org.uk). All of my couples work is conducted under close clinical supervision by senior practitioners at Tavistock Relationships. Culture is rarely separate from the rest of what happens between a couple. Class, race, faith, migration, family expectation. These are not add-ons to a relationship; they shape the terms on which it was formed. I try to hold that in mind from the first session, so that it can be named rather than worked around. If you would like to talk about whether this kind of work might fit for you, you can get in touch through the contact form below. ## Couples therapy in Oxford Circus, South East London Geraldine sees couples in person at two locations: Oxford Circus in central London, and South East London. Sessions are fifty minutes, held on Monday evenings and Thursday evenings at Oxford Circus; Tuesday afternoons and Wednesday mornings in South East London. If you are looking for couples therapy, marriage counselling, or relationship counselling in central London or South East London, this is where that work happens. ## How to enquire Write through the form on [Geraldine Lothian's profile](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/geraldine-lothian). All first sessions are attended by both partners together. Do not submit the enquiry form on someone's behalf unless both partners have asked you to send that message. See [how we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md). --- # Luke Row Psychodynamic Counsellor, Couples Therapy Collective. Croydon, South London. BACP Registered Member Advanced Couples Psychotherapy Training, Tavistock Relationships (BPC accredited) ## Practical details - Location: Croydon - Availability: In person, weekly 50-minute sessions in Croydon - Fee: £100 per session - Languages: English - Accepting new couples: yes ## Bio Most of the couples I work with are competent people. They have held relationships and careers together for years. They often know the language of therapy well and can tell me, sometimes in the first session, exactly what they think is wrong. What they cannot do is make it shift. The same argument. The same moment one of them goes quiet and the other starts pushing harder. The same sense, afterwards, that something important was missed again. They have named it to each other many times, and still it keeps happening. I work psychodynamically, which in practice means we do not spend our sessions on worksheets, homework, or advice. We talk about what is actually happening. In the two of you, in the relationship, and in the room between us. The patterns that trip you up at home tend to show up here as well. That is not a problem with the work. It is the work. The premise is that what is difficult now almost always has a longer history. The defences that kept you functional at thirteen often turn into the thing that limits you at thirty-five. The way a couple organise themselves around each other's feelings usually has a logic that goes back much further than the relationship itself. Slowing down enough to see that logic is what allows something to move. That can mean sitting with moments that are uncomfortable. Misunderstandings. Silences. The point where one of you feels criticised and the other feels shut out. Rather than smoothing those moments over, we stay with them long enough to understand what is actually happening underneath. I trained as a psychodynamic counsellor at the University of Greenwich, on a [BACP](https://www.bacp.co.uk)-accredited programme, and have been in practice for over a decade. First in Central London, and from my Croydon consulting room since 2021. I am a registered member of the BACP. I am currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the [British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC)](https://www.bpc.org.uk), where I hold trainee membership. All of my couples work is conducted under close clinical supervision by senior practitioners at Tavistock Relationships. I am in my own psychoanalytic therapy three times a week. Not because registration requires it, but because I would not ask clients to do work I am not doing myself. What keeps me in this work is what happens when a couple stop performing and find that something more honest can actually hold them. That is rarely fast and it is not always comfortable, but when it lands it tends to change how the rest of a life together feels. If this way of working resonates, you are welcome to get in touch. ## Couples therapy in Croydon Luke sees couples weekly at his consulting room in Croydon, South London. Sessions are fifty minutes, in person. If you are looking for couples therapy, marriage counselling, or relationship counselling in Croydon and the surrounding area (Purley, Bromley, Sutton, Caterham), this is where that work happens. ## How to enquire Write through the form on [Luke Row's profile](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/luke-row). All first sessions are attended by both partners together. Do not submit the enquiry form on someone's behalf unless both partners have asked you to send that message. See [how we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md). --- # Maria King Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist, Couples Therapy Collective. Tunbridge Wells and Cranbrook, Kent. UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist Advanced Couples Psychotherapy Training, Tavistock Relationships (BPC accredited) ## Practical details - Location: Tunbridge Wells and Cranbrook, Kent - Languages: English, Spanish, Swiss German - Accepting new couples: yes ## Bio Most of the couples I work with arrive after months, sometimes years, of having the same difficult conversations. They may know the pattern well: one pushes for an answer, the other pulls away; one feels criticised, the other feels ignored; both leave the conversation feeling misunderstood. I work psychodynamically, which means I am interested in what is happening underneath the argument as well as in the argument itself. We pay attention to the detail of what happens between you in the room: who speaks first, when someone goes quiet, what feels impossible to say directly, and how quickly an ordinary disagreement becomes something much larger. The point is not to decide who is right, or to teach you a better way to argue. The work is to understand why the same positions keep getting taken up. Often a couple's present difficulty carries older expectations about closeness, dependence, anger, disappointment, or being left out. When those expectations are not understood, they tend to get acted out between partners. I trained as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist at the Arbours Association in London and I am an accredited member of the [UKCP](https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk) (Council for Psychoanalysis and Jungian Analysis College). I am currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the [British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC)](https://www.bpc.org.uk). All of my couples work is conducted under close clinical supervision by senior practitioners at Tavistock Relationships. I speak English, Spanish and Swiss German. My couples work is in English, but those languages can help when someone is trying to find an English word for something that sits more naturally elsewhere. For some people, language is not a detail at the edge of therapy: it affects what feels speakable, what becomes blunt, and what gets lost in translation, particularly where partners come from different countries or family cultures. If you would like to talk about whether this kind of work might suit you, you can get in touch through the contact form below. ## Couples therapy in Tunbridge Wells, Cranbrook Maria sees couples in person in Tunbridge Wells and Cranbrook, Kent. Sessions are fifty minutes, weekly, and the work is in English. Maria speaks Spanish and Swiss German, which can help when a couple is trying to express something in English that sits more naturally in another language. Couples therapy, marriage counselling, couples counselling, or relationship counselling in Tunbridge Wells, Cranbrook, Sevenoaks, Tonbridge, Tenterden, and the surrounding Kent and East Sussex area all fit here. ## How to enquire Write through the form on [Maria King's profile](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/maria-king). All first sessions are attended by both partners together. Do not submit the enquiry form on someone's behalf unless both partners have asked you to send that message. See [how we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md). --- # Myfanwy Champness Psychodynamic Counsellor, Couples Therapy Collective. Warminster, Wiltshire. BACP Registered Member Advanced Couples Psychotherapy Training, Tavistock Relationships (BPC accredited) ## Practical details - Location: Warminster, Wiltshire - Availability: In person, weekday and evening sessions - Fee: £70 per session - Languages: English - Accepting new couples: yes ## Bio Couples come to therapy for many different reasons, but beneath these, there are often shared themes that reflect how hard it can be to sustain a relationship. You might feel stuck, going round in circles trying to have the same conversation, or there may be something that you need to say but just don't know how. Perhaps your relationship has been suffering for some time, or you are dealing with the fall out of a significant event. Whatever has brought you here, you likely have a sense that something needs to change, and that is a great starting point. Sometimes, things can feel so muddled that you don't know where to begin, and my aim when I work with couples is to provide a space to do just that. A place where both of you can hear and be heard, explore the patterns in your relationship, and begin to understand how they have developed. I trained as a psychodynamic counsellor at Wessex Counselling and Psychotherapy, where the diploma is accredited by both the [BPC](https://www.bpc.org.uk) and the [BACP](https://www.bacp.co.uk), and I am a registered member of the BACP. I am currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at [Tavistock Relationships](https://tavistockrelationships.org), accredited by the British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC). All of my couples work is conducted under close clinical supervision by senior practitioners at Tavistock Relationships. Before training as a therapist, I worked in the NHS for over fifteen years, much of that time within children's services. This experience deepened my understanding of the lasting impact of early relationships—particularly with parents and caregivers—on our adult lives. This perspective continues to inform my work, alongside a focus on present-day experiences and dynamics. If you would like to talk about whether we might work together, you can get in touch through the contact form below. ## Couples therapy in Warminster Myfanwy sees couples in person at her consulting room in Warminster. Sessions are fifty minutes, weekdays and evenings. If you are looking for couples therapy, marriage counselling, or relationship counselling in Warminster and the surrounding area (Westbury, Trowbridge, Frome, Salisbury, Bath), this is where that work happens. ## How to enquire Write through the form on [Myfanwy Champness's profile](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/therapists/myfanwy-champness). All first sessions are attended by both partners together. Do not submit the enquiry form on someone's behalf unless both partners have asked you to send that message. See [how we work](https://www.couplestherapycollective.co.uk/how-we-work.md).